You Say Equal Rights, I Say Equal Respect !

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” Gender Equity is a thought-provoking direction”

“Men and women should have equal rights”

“They are same”

These were the slogans of one the protest happening in Pakistan with lots of women of every age with modern clothes and expensive make-up on their face shouting their mouths out under hot sun with sun-blocks on their skin !

These are the same women who go to their homes full of servants and sit in air conditioned rooms and insult their female servants and maids. Who don’t even move themselves to get a glass of water and who say a word out of their mouth and their husbands have to follow it. Then the same women brag about what social work they are doing by protesting for Equal right for men and women. Yes they can say that because they see the same thing in their own homes…. Both of them, wife and husband have pockets full of money and both of them work in hugs offices to earn this money !

They say , ” If you can’t cook , get out of kitchen ! “

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But the women working at homes and Growing their children and men working hard from dawn to dusk for their children and raising their family can ask for equal rights and equality ?

I am against the concept of equal rights and equality for men and women. Men and women can never be equal. Both have their own strengths and both have their own weaknesses. No one can take place of the other and both with all their different unique capabilities are necessary to run the society Β successfully. Then how come we ask for equal rights ?

If we talk about Islam, Women were treated as inferior creatures before Hazrat Muhammad (PBUH) that they were buried alive . After Him , they were given many rights in society regarding property and other but they were never called as equal to men. They were given greater respect then men but at the same time it was said that they can never take place of men. Men are born to earn and run the family and women have to stay inside to raise their families. They can go out too to earn but under certain restrictions and boundaries. Both of them are born with different natures. I can’t say men should be preferred on women neither am I saying men are superior to women. Both are at an equal place but with their own unique capabilities. Β Women will create more imbalance in the society if they would try to do the work men are made for doing. That is why a women ruler is said to be always destructive because Ruling is a characteristic of men.

Nowhere in Quran Allah said that Man is superior to woman. Instead He said

“We created you from a male and female, made you into nations and tribes, so that you may come to know one another. Truly the most honored of you in God’s sight is the greatest of you in piety “ 49:13

Women have their own rights to life, to learn, own and dispose of property, choose a husband, right as a wife, standard of living, right to be treated equally, right to divorce, right to inherit and right to a final will. Men have their own rights.

I am on the side of demanding equal respect for both men and women but when it comes to feminism and equal rights for men and women, I am Sorry I deny it !

 

 

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  1. That’s a great post.
    “Women will create more imbalance in the society if they would try to do the work men are made for doing.”
    I love the point ‘i demand equal respect’ because ‘respect’ is afterall what is needed. If you think she is weak and you can ‘use’ her or destroy her, and believe she’s never going to stand up because she can not – is a mistake that leads her into finally forgetting her boundaries.
    Women aren’t equal to men, yet both have their own status and rights.

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  2. The idea of equality does not imply sameness. I am not the same as you, yet we can be equal. Nor does that imply that if you are a far better engineer, you should have no more opportunity than I to get a job as an engineer, or that you should have an equal chance to be employed as a Dutch-Polish interpreter as someone fluent in those languages.

    Equal rights means things like people being able to do any job if they have the necessary skills and commitment; everyone having the same legal rights; everyone being able to vote.

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    • I can understand your point of view…..
      It is more of a country tradition thing I guess…..We have some other meaning of equal rights and western countries have some other meaning of equal rights……I knew this type of misunderstandings would arise when I wrote this post.
      Well, you can read this post as if you are reading about the equal rights with respect to Eastern countries !
      Thanks for your comment πŸ™‚

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  3. Totally agree with you on this – great blog!

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  4. Ain Riz

     /  October 12, 2013

    love ittttttttttttttttt

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  5. Ain Riz

     /  October 12, 2013

    and let me also add here, these are the same women who would spun lies and stoop to the lowest levels of in humanity to ruin your relationship and try to snatch your significant others without having a shred of dignity. and they all r clad in rich designer lawns professionally successful. may Allah save us all from such psycho women and protect our relationships and happiness. Amen

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    • Oh Yes definitely ! I agree with you….. You know the high class aunties know nothing about the underlying problems…they just have to show off their clothes….
      Ameen ! And thanks for adding to my thoughts πŸ™‚ ❀

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  6. I do come from another part of the world, so my views start from a different understanding. What we value or consider to be equal rights may or may not be the same as yours.
    I also see a view in this that speaks to the idea of privileged lives in comparison to average or poorer citizens, I think that is a different road of discussion from the idea of rights.

    If I were to add to this, I would start with the idea that not every woman has or gets to have such a wonderful significant other to be so protective of.
    What of the women that have to work to feed their babies?
    What if they are lawyers or engineers of good standing and talent – don’t they deserve the right to be paid and treated as well as their male counter-parts?
    In many parts of the world it is a privileged right for some women to choose to stay home and grow their families.
    Another right that should be equal is the ability to have opinions and speak them freely.

    Men were not always the majority rulers. Women are every bit as intelligent and capable of leadership as men, and there are many cultures whose history speaks to that. It is one of many reasons why many women feel it is their right to have a say in who will lead them, as well as have the opportunity to do so.

    I agree with you that men and women have different strengths and they should be respected equally, but I do not believe that one side’s strength is greater than the other. Both are equally valuable and vital to humanity.

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    • I agree to almost every thought of your’s mam ! And Yes I agree that both men and women are equally valuable and vital to humanity…..
      As I already said in one of my replies, This is more of a country tradition thing…..
      I know in western countries, equal rights means more about equal pays in jobs . Well in our side, women who work are paid equally as men …. But they have to face so many other problems starting from bad comments from family and people around them to humiliation in public etc.
      And…first of all in our countries, no women can have child without marrying a guy…and secondly if he dies, she can sure work taking care of certain boundaries.
      I just said it is preferred for women to do what they are meant to do.
      Our country has a history of female ruler too but personally I don’t stand by the side of female ruling thing.
      I just shared my personal thoughts πŸ™‚ I respect your’s too Ma’m ….
      Thank you so much for your valuable time and comment ! Love xx

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      • Thank you for sharing your thoughts too. It is very interesting to see perspectives from around the world.
        I always wonder how varying ideas evolve over time. I hope I can look forward to watching your for a long time.
        Love returned to you. xx

      • Yes it is Ma’m , indeed very interesting. This is the real way of getting knowledge for me these days πŸ™‚
        I will look forward to hear more thoughts from you πŸ™‚ Loved your presence here.
        Best wishes ! xx

  7. I only partially agree.

    The bit I disagree with the most is when you say ruling is a characteristic of men.
    Both genders are equally bad at ruling. Matriarchal societies are no better or worse than patriarchal ones and some of histories greatest leaders have been women (Elisabeth I, Catherine the Great, Isabella of Spain, Boadicea, Jeanne d’Arc).

    Men and women as groups tend to ‘cluster’ around different attributes but that’s not the same as saying men and women are different. Some women are taller or stronger than some men for instance. There are men who have more ‘feminine’ attributes than the average woman and visa versa (and I’m not just talking gays and lesbians here). People should be able to live their lives according to their own preferences, strengths and weaknesses, not some sort of social stereotype applied to their gender, race, religion or anything else.

    While there are obviously things such as child bearing and breast feeding that make women inevitably more a part of child rearing than men, to expect the woman to take on all the child rearing while the man does all the wage earning even when the woman has better wage earning abilities than the man is not just unfair, it’s stupid. Obviously the children are not going to do very well if the family is impoverished because the man cannot earn a decent living while the woman sits at home all day in spite of being, say, a talented and skilled computer programmer.

    Where feminism sucks is where it mimics the patriarchists in it’s essentialism. So, while the patriarchy might say all women should stay at home with the children whether they like it or not authoritarian feminists might say all women should have a career whether they like it or not. While patriarchists will say men make better rulers than women feminists will say women make better rulers than men. Both are wrong and are prepared to mess up the lives of others in support of their own half-baked ideology.

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    • Lol well yes i do agree…both men and women are equally bad rulers. Yes I know some of history’s greatest rulers were women but ruling is an attribute of men because they are more emotionally stable than women….I bet if there had been a men in place of those women, results would have been much better πŸ˜‰
      Exceptions do exist Cabrogal…but we can only talk about the general…. Exceptions have to make their place by their own I guess.
      And as far as the staying at home or earning thing is concerned, It is not forbidden for women to go out and earn but it is preferred ! Things that are designed for women, they can only do them perfectly…again exceptions do exist. Islam never forbids women to go out and earn……if they are in proper veils.
      Yes….. I guess there should be a balance. Everyone should do in what they believe.

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      • Everyone is an exception, White Pearl.

        To try to generalise people from gender, race, nationality, sexual orientation or any other category is to oppress them.

        Even the most macho man out there probably has some aspects or preferences that are considered feminine by his community and ditto for even the most feminine woman. To the degree they are unable to express or follow that aspect of themselves they are oppressed. If a man is skilled and fulfilled when raising kids he should be allowed to do so without ridicule. Same for a woman if her dreams and talents lie in auto repair, computer programming or leadership.

        You need to judge everyone according to themselves, not the categories you impose upon them.

        The reason feminism is still necessary is because every where you go women are forced into certain roles and treated in certain ways purely because they are women. That does not mean that all feminists are correct – I think you know my opinion of the Islamophobic, whorephobic, transphobic, equal-opportunism feminists who are so vocal in the West. But it does mean that feminism as a movement deserves our support even if there are certain aspects of some parts of it that don’t.

        For the record, I support intersectional anarcho-feminism but do not consider myself a feminist.
        Women liberating themselves is feminism.
        Men liberating women is paternalism.

      • Well How can I argue with you, you have NAMES for EVERYTHING πŸ˜›
        I can understand your point though. you can say what you have experienced…. I say what I have experienced.
        I have always seen, whenever man tried to create imbalance in what Allah has described….Things have gone towards destruction. Trust me I have always seen that.

  8. Very relevant vocalization Lalarukh. It has been countless year from evolution of men to emergence of civilization, from evolution of civilizations to our current state. Yet women’s state in-spite of being progressive yet has not reached its true state – the state of equal rights and treatment.
    Where from her appearance to her expression, from her way of living to earning a livelihood, from her way of being competitive to the recognition of her physical needs and temperament – needs not to be evaluated on prejudice but only on the basis of competence, just like it should be.
    Not just that, I think it’s also a time to move a progress for other genders like intersexuals and transsexuals as well. Because currently they face the same ordeal that was once faced by the females – not too long ago, just couple of centuries back. Alas time hasn’t moved that constructively forward in many areas of the world yet. Still there are areas of the world where they burn women, where there are mandatory laws on appearance, where physical abuse is common, where women are taken an undue-advantage of because their voice is suppressed, where women in-spite of being a victim herself requires testimony of other men, where children are separated from women, where women are outcast and beat by stones, where they kill before one’s born, or bury just after one steps into the world.
    A voice should be raised for each such incident, while one shouldn’t wait for them to happen, and should work in parallel on the progressive movement.
    .
    In sometime past, I have written a small piece on it, it’s called ‘State of Women”. Please check that out, I would like to have your opinion on that. http://alisohani.wordpress.com/2013/09/19/state-of-women/

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    • Well Sir ! you have elaborated the concept in much more exquisite and clear words….. so wonderfully ! Thank you so very much for that.
      I do agree to all your thoughts.
      You are right, still with all the hugs progress the world is making, there are some very dark places with all those dark traditions still in practice. Seeing that, no one could say the world is advancing forward. We fight over equal rights and in those areas, women even don’t have any rights at all.
      Yes, sometimes raising voices makes a difference and this is the least we can do on our part !
      Just going to check your article … Thank you so very much for sharing your kind thoughts on this topic ! Much appreciated πŸ™‚

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  9. I think this is my favorite post on your blog!

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  10. I side with you on this topic. Nice post. πŸ™‚

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  11. Me too πŸ™‚

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  12. A Great matured post Rukh…I see equal rights doesn’t mean Women doing what Men do or Vice-Versa,instead they should be given equal rights in whatever they are good at doing..Creating a Balance in the society means that Men and Women are both par at doing whatever they are good at doing….and the mutual respect between both the gender is equally important,You know a balanced society is only possible when we make ourselves to see things with a point of view of others that we there will be understanding between different point of view and collaborating them we can make out a view that is suited for everyone..But such things seldom happens as we Humans are always Happy making or thinking ourselves superior than others..

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    • Thank you Harsha ! You see walking dead ? There is an old nice man in there whose name is Harsha and your name always reminds me of him πŸ˜› I am waiting for its next season desperately πŸ˜›
      Well Yes, creating balance is the thing. Our thoughts match because we are from the same world …. Most of the people from West didn’t agree because their setup is quite different from us.
      I agree to all your thoughts ! Thank you so very much for sharing your point of view or I must say, adding to mine ! Appreciate it πŸ™‚ Hope you are doing fine. Much thanks.

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      • Lol You mean to say I am Old..;)
        Well I am quite Young and Dashing.. πŸ˜›
        And Walking Dead well I have not gone through the show but yes I played its Season 1 game.. πŸ˜€
        The Reason of difference lies in the way we view..As I say always try to put yourself in Others person Shoe and have a Look ,if you see what they are trying to say well then you can explain them better.. πŸ˜€

      • Lol Oh no way πŸ˜› I just meant to say your name reminds me of someone πŸ˜‰
        And thanks for the valuable information about yourself πŸ˜›
        You are right ! I do agree πŸ™‚ Thanks

  13. I totally agree with the post… (Waise ye to tujhe pehle se hi pata tha… hai na?)

    I would only add one instance that comes to my mind…

    After the Delhi rape case in 2012, a group of women protesters were shown with slogans like…
    “Kapde Nahin Soch Badlo”

    While I (and probably all of us) agree on the ‘Soch Badlo’ part, I feel amused to see the “Kapde Nahin” part… I mean… why?… I say

    “Kapde bhi badal lo… Aap hi ka bhalaa hai… Soch badalna to kaafi mushkil hai… Kapde hi sahi…”

    I mean jab aapko pataa hai ki ‘chhote’ kapde pehen ne se aapko khatraa hai, to aap kyun nahin sambhal kar rahtin?

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    • Haan I knew it, hamari pehlay baat hue thi is topic pe thori c.
      I really really agree to your thought.
      I mean why women always say men to lower down their gaze when they themselves wear things that would attract them
      I never understand this kind of open mindedness !
      You know your respect is always in your own hands, then why ask it from others ? specially men ? they could never change πŸ˜‰
      Hena ? πŸ˜›

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      • Who won’t change? Men? Huh… Tu bol mat…

        Bus mein aadhi seats unke liye reserved hain… Hum khare khare jaate hain even though unki seats khaali hain…
        Aur to aur yeh couples… ladies seat khaali hogi, but phir bhi bandi ko bande ke paas (chipak kar) hi baithna hai… Unke ‘undying romance’ mein dakhal daalo to tumhaari shaamat pakki πŸ˜‰

        And when one lucky day you are peacefully sitting in the bus and a woman stands besides you… it becomes your ‘moral duty’ to leave the seat for them…

        In short, hamaare naseeb mein bus ki seat kabhi likhi hi nahin hoti πŸ˜‰

        I have always maintained… Hum jaiise sabhya larkon ke liye gender inequality ulta kaam karti hai πŸ˜‰

        Waise ignore kar… main to apna gussa nikaal raha tha…
        We agree on this topic overall πŸ™‚

        Waise on second thoughts… main apne is gusse to ek post banaa sakta hoon… elaborate karke… Sure banaunga πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜›

      • Haha yaar itni respect tu banti hai na…. Ab Allah ne tum logo ko zada strong banaya hai aur larkiyun ko kam strong…tu ager seat chor b detay ho tu kuch nae hota na πŸ˜›
        Wesay baray achay insaan ho seat chor detay ho….mene tu apni class me b aisa nae daikha aj tak…
        Kisi larki ko seat na b mili ho koi larka kabi uth k apni seat nae deta.
        Nikaal nikaal gussa πŸ˜› Mukkay mar le πŸ˜›
        Aur haan I would love to read your gussay se bhari hue post πŸ˜› Likh likh

      • Wo sab to thik hai par is ulti gender inequality ka kya? Mere legs dard kar rahe hain… 1 ghante ka safar kiya aaj… Khare khare πŸ˜› And that too BENGAL ki bus mein khare khare… (Tujhe pata hai na… bengal aur crowd synonymous hain?)

        Haan haan likhoonga dheere dheere πŸ™‚

      • Haha ab isk baray me me kya kahun…. Allah tumhain sabar ka phal de ga πŸ˜› Wait for it… May be one day yopu get to sit πŸ˜›
        Nae muje nae pata tha lol and why are Bengal and crowd synonyms ?

      • Ruk ja… usi post mein bataa doonga… The relation between bengal and crowd πŸ™‚

        But for starters, did you know that Bangladesh population is almost same as Pakistan… And the area is less than 20% of Pakistan? So imagine the population density there… West Bengal is even more densely populated… πŸ™‚

      • I have a clue but I don’t know the details…. Yes I can imagine lol

  14. This is perfectly written, expecially from the fourth paragraph down. indeed men and woman are not equal and woman have their own uniqueness and part to play just as men have theirs. Great post.

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  15. This is perfectly written, expecially from the fourth paragraph down. indeed men and woman are not equal and woman have their own uniqueness and part to play just as men have theirs. Great post.

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  16. Clearly defined social roles in any society are a vital aspect to the health of a society…

    Throughout history there are some cultures that have had more patriarchal leaning social roles and others with more matriarchal leaning social roles..and overall social structure…

    This is probably a key issue as to the differences in philosophies in religion and political structure of countries in the middle east as opposed to western Europe and the United States..

    One main issue is that of reproductive control…

    Without the development of the Birth Control Pill in 1960 and the legalization of abortion in 1973 in the US and associated spread of these new technological developments there would not likely have been a successful equal rights campaign in the US..per Civil Rights that included equal opportunity to jobs..etc..

    Of course no one is equal as far as biology goes for anyone..as all human beings are both diverse in neurology and physical prowess…

    There is a gender spectrum in biology that is not that much different than the rainbow in the sky..some men are feminine and some woman are masculine..brain gender does not always equal physical appearance…either…

    There is a great deal of research in science that establishes evidence for this biological gender spectrum..and of course culture plays a huge role…as the structure of culture per matriarchal social structures may result in woman as the more dominant overall gender force…

    Currently as far as biology goes..there are some countries where the population over all is sexually dimorphic in physical characteristics and others where the population overall has little overall difference in the physical size and associated characteristics for gender among the woman and men…

    So..as you can see this is a very complex issue..and what may work in one country will absolutely not work in another country depending on the culture and actual biology of the individuals living in the country of focus…

    Well..quite honestly as far as marriage goes…I like the fact that I am the dominant individual in the marriage as a male..as far as someone taking care of me…but on the other hand..I am also glad my wife is a very strong individual psychologically and does not mind at all to speak her mind with me…wherever she may be uncomfortable in the relationship…

    I like to be nurtured by a woman ..and she likes to nurture me..

    This is the patriarchal social structure i like in my family…

    But in my opinion considering there is a gender spectrum of greatly varying characteristics I would never impose my will on another couple who may have completely different innate characteristics as far as gender and general inclinations go…than my wife and I…

    I do not mind disagreeing about issues ..but I would never impose my will on another person in real life..nor do I ever try to do that in writing..but occasionally people take my metaphors too serious in that way…

    No one can walk in the shoes of another person to accurately personally judge them in these matters..and if they could they could likely have a completely different viewpoint on these issues….

    A long life of varying personal circumstances and differing contingencies..brings this kind of wisdom to an individual…

    Almost impossible for some younger people to understand this more fully until they actually walk in many different pairs of shoes..for metaphor…

    But the bottom line as far as science and biology goes..no to individuals are biologically equivalent..not even identical twins…

    So there is really not even any reasonable discussion warranted…I think.. to refute this reality…

    Equal rights as far as feminism goes in the US..has never been to say that woman and men are biologically equal..it has only been legal protection for equal pay and equal job opportunities..and other issues that in effect are determining factors as to whether or not someone will have opportunities to thrive in society..or even in some case even survive…

    It is definitely a very complex issue..with many opinions differing depending on who is giving the opinions..their personal life experiences..and all the different shoes that one individual may have walked in..in life to provide their opinions on this interesting..and at times..actual dire issue for basic survival for individuals in society…

    This is a very good topic to discuss and very interesting to see the great support for you here from your friends in the middle east…as most woman who would dare bring up a subject like this in western oriented internet target audiences in the US..would likely be savagely attacked in words for any suggestion that woman do not deserve equal rights…

    Woman did work very hard in the US to get equal rights for job opportunities and protection from discrimination in the workplace and they do value these rights and protections very much..as there was much disparity before per lower pay for the same job and many other dire issues.. based on gender alone..per these issues of basic economics and basic ability to earn a subsistence for life…

    Again though from me..thumbs for bringing it up..lovexx

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    • Well, First of all thank you so much for the detailed and wise discussion from your side on the topic.
      I agree to most of your points. Yes the tings that work in one country may not work in the others.
      Equal rights have an entire different meanings in West and east.
      You are right, no one could walk in anyone other’s shoes.
      Well I like the fact of dominant man in marriage too, I like the concept of women taking care of men.
      I don’t have very much information about what women do in West because I haven’t saw them doing….though I have researched about their demands on what they call as equal rights.
      Thank you so much for appreciating this topic and me too πŸ™‚
      Love you for all the support ! xx

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  17. Fantastic post! Really enjoyed this and it’s exactly what I think too!

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  18. Allah Ta aala has created human beings, men and women alike for the same single purpose of recognising and worshipping Him. The Deen is one. Allah Ta aala says in the Holy Quraan, ‘ The believing men and believing woman are helpers one unto the other..’ . Allah has created man and woman to mutually assist each other in the road to earn His pleasure. In another verse Allah says, ‘ They (your wives) are garments for you and you are garments for them’ . This shows closeness and comfort.
    Obviously, physically, mentally, emotionally men and women are different and accordingly Allah has apportioned functions and duties. Man has the honour of caring for and taking a large responsibility in her needs so she can have more time to focus on creating a warm and stable environment in the home which is the real place of moulding a child into a sensitive human being. What ammi (mum) can do , abba can never do.
    Respect and appreciation is fundamental from both sides and understanding there are limits to remain within.
    In Islaam, you not only a white pearl, but you are a jewel and I hope your future husband cares for you like that and assists you and you vice versa assist him to please Allah Ta aala and fulfill the roles He wants us to carry out.

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    • First of all, A big big thanks for all the Islamic thoughts you just shared about the very topic. I really appreciate that.
      Secondly, yes I do agree to all of them. Thank you for sharing the accurate verses from Quran Paak. You know Islam has the answer for every query of man….. That is why I found a huge difference in the views of West and East on this topic. I don’t know whether it is because of the opposite religions or different traditions.
      Thank you so much for appreciating me too ! Ameen on your Duaas. I love them πŸ™‚ You are such a nice person. Love xx

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      • You deserve to be appreciated as you have great love for Allah Ta aala and Islaam. Tonight is a night of ibaadat. Cut off from creation for a while and be in communion with the Creator and if you remember make dua for me (Junaid). May you have a beautiful and mubarak Eid.

      • This is just your kindness πŸ™‚ Thank you so very much…I am so honored by your appreciation !
        Eid Mubarik to you too πŸ™‚ May you have a fun day . Stay blessed ! xx

  19. Acha hai yar. I, today, have come to know that blogging is a very important app to transform the world into a better place.

    I love your concept of equality in respect. This is what I call changing mindset of people to get better things done.

    Stay blessed and keep writing like this. And yeah thanks for your encouraging words on my blog

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    • Oh Yes it definitely is !
      Thank you so much for liking what I wrote ! I welcome you here πŸ™‚
      I will keep writing InshAllah !
      Thanks for your visit too πŸ™‚ Best wishes xx

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  20. Ohk so this one is about us and them.
    Well, I totally agree with your point. Equal respect, but not equality.
    Great perspective.
    Men and women are born to be different. But the problem arose when we converged differences into inequality.
    In fact women can do all that a man can. But a man can’t do all that a woman can πŸ˜‰
    what the society has to offer us should therefore be based on equal respect and equity.
    gud day!

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    • Thank you Pamela !
      I wonder why your name is not underlined as ‘not listed in dictionary’ with a red line πŸ˜› πŸ˜›
      Anyways…
      Yeah you are right…being different and being unequal are two opposite things…. People are not willing to make their perspective and vision broader !
      Lol yeah I can understand what a women CAN do πŸ˜› πŸ˜›
      Good day to you too πŸ™‚ Hope your husband is treating you well πŸ˜‰

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  21. rjl2727

     /  October 17, 2013

    Hi White Pearl. I hope you didn’t catch too much flack for your views. I do agree that the greater issue is equal respect between men and women. I guess we were created male and female, and not interchangeable for a reason!! Great post, and it got me thinking about the opposite view in my own religious culture.
    http://onelastwordb4igo.wordpress.com/2013/10/16/the-christian-husbands-division-of-labor/

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    • Yes you got it right ! Thank you for liking the post and thanks for sharing your views too πŸ™‚ . You have an opposite view ? I am sure gonna read what your view is.

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      • rjl2727

         /  October 18, 2013

        my view is not opposite to yours. i meant i was postng in “christian husban’s…) an opposite attitude that occurs in the context and under the pretext of religoin, but by now you’ve figued that out. i support your view.

      • Thanks for supporting it πŸ™‚

      • rjl2727

         /  October 19, 2013

        with pleasure and conviction.

  22. Equal respect mmmm? Most men misconstrue the meaning and do not truly respect themselves so, I will not measure equal respect by their ruler or the world’s. I will demand respect at a level, I define, as balanced.

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  23. I hope you don’t mind but I had to share this. It is exactly what we are trying to teach people. Women do not realize the power that they have been given. We can make or break the views that the men in our lives have, by our words. I am from the US, and constantly looked down upon because I stay at home with my children, and ‘submit’ to my husband. Little do they know they power that I have because of this. Little do they know, the power that they lose by stepping out of their roles.

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    • I definitely don’t mind at all πŸ™‚ I welcome you and your thoughts here !
      There is no need of showing your power lady as long as you and your family is happy I guess…..
      I got your point ! Thanks for sharing it πŸ™‚ Have a good day !

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  24. you have got too many comments πŸ™‚
    i liked the last picture alot

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  25. mangerunlivre

     /  July 29, 2014

    Hi, White Pearl. My name is Marie. I’m Argentine and I came across your blog thanks to the commentary someone else made. I’m not Muslim, I’m Catholic. This has been very informative of a view that is often not so seen here among those who demand equal rights, but not far from my own.

    I think that a lot of feminist theory has ended up wrong with the idea that we could somehow disregard the opposite sex. And like one of the persons who commented in this post, I do agree that God created us both, men and women to help each other. We Catholics believe, that the sexes are complimentary: the nature of the feminine and masculine balance each other and are essential for the family, which is the most essential part of society.

    “The creation of woman is thus marked from the outset by the principle of help: a help which is not one-sided but mutual. Woman complements man, just as man complements woman: men and women are complementary. Womanhood expresses the “human” as much as manhood does, but in a different and complementary way.” – from St. John Paul II’s Letter to Women.

    It’s also a cultural thing, like you point out. Everyone speaks from their experience, I guess, but you’re not alone! It’s possible to digress, and demand equal respect instead. I live in a place where women do have equal rights, but the respect that men should have for women and women should have for men, has not been achieved. Respect is the base for everything that will come after.

    Thanks for your post.

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